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Film Selections 08: Healing

Film Selections 08: Healing

Beyond the accident that causes you pain, the incident that results in disaster, beyond all the things hurtful and numbing, there’s always the process of healing. The word itself is so soothing; ‘healing’, you mumble as your breath exhale, creating a temporary, but much better state of mind. And as you continue doing that, the healing gets stronger and it stays deep inside the room of sanity that you keep so pristine and neat.

We often romanticize the act of suffering in order to make art, or statement, whatever you want to call it. And that’s okay, up until the point where you’re not able to escape from that and then damages come. Should be known that to heal is okay, it’s a part of a rebirth. Something to celebrate. It’s a concept from the start for you to prevent it from cycling back and to alleviate that pain out of your direction. It’s there for you to decline and take the high road for your better moment.

Therefore, there are many ways in you could reduce the ache and heal. These are the best five films to represent that.

ORDINARY PEOPLE (Dir: Robert Redford, 1980)

Starring: Donald Sutherland, Mary Tyler Moore, Timothy Hutton, Judd Hirsch, Elizabeth McGovern.

Never in a lifetime have I ever cried this hard to Mary Tyler Moore and that says something. Astonishing film about grief and loss.

WHEN A MAN LOVES A WOMAN (Dir: Luis Mandoki, 1994).

Starring: Meg Ryan, Andy Garcia, Ellen Burstyn, Tina Majorino, Mae Whitman

In this film about recovering from alcoholism, there’s a heavy study on codependency that sometimes gets overlooked in the healing process.


Starring: Jim Carrey, Kate Winslet, Mark Ruffalo, Kirsten Dunst, Tom Wilkinson

I know what you’re about to say, “Oh so predictable,” but really, this film is excellent on examining the process of healing in the best metaphor possible. Also, Kate Winslet’s best performance to date.

THINGS TO COME (Dir: Mia-Hansen Løve, 2016).

Starring: Isabelle Huppert, André Marcon, Edith Scob, Roman Kolinka, Sarah Le Picard.

Always exciting to see the marvelous Isabelle Huppert laughing and reinventing her life after her husband left her.

MAGNOLIA (Dir: Paul Thomas Anderson, 1999).

Starring: Tom Cruise, Julianne Moore, John C. Reilly, Philip Seymour Hoffman, William H. Macy.

Watching this film almost feels like being in the literal process of healing, medically and emotionally, and in a good way, of course.

Film Selections 09: Endings

Film Selections 09: Endings

Book Review: No Matter the Wreckage by Sarah Kay

Book Review: No Matter the Wreckage by Sarah Kay